I use to be an abortion abolitionist. Do I still believe that unborn babies are people? Yes. Do I still believe that abortion is wrong? Yes. However, I experienced an awakening of sorts when I wanted a VBAC after two traumatic unwanted C-sections. Everybody told me no! You cant do that! Its not safe. Its not allowed. It might kill you, it might kill your baby!! My first thought was “wow. I could say I wanted an abortion right now, and I could choose to kill my baby, but because I wanted it to live, the medical community said I have to do things their way. IT WAS MY BODY!! IT WAS ALSO MY BABY!! Of course I found a midwife who was glad to accommodate my wishes, and to date I have had two VBACs, without any issues.
No matter what spin you put on it, a pregnant woman’s body is hers. That baby is also her responsibility. It is ultimately her decision. The hypocrites come in here. Hypocrites on the right cry freedom and personal responsibility, unless it doesn’t match up with their personal beliefs. You know who governs peoples beliefs and forces their opinions on them? Communists. Workers party. Marxist. The very thing you claim to hate.
Don’t worry, I’m coming to the other Hypocrites. I want you to picture a scenario. You walk into your living room. You see the person you love most in the whole world, (daughter, wife, husband , son) about to hang themselves. What do you do? Well, that is their life. Its their body. Should you say “good choice. Way to be empowered. You go right ahead. Kill yourself. Here, let me help you. I don’t think that rope is quite long enough. Lets get you a better one. You wont regret this. Everyone will be much better off this way. Want me to yank that chair out from under you?”
Or would you run over and stop them? would you talk with them? find out what’s going on? Get them help? Of course you would. Statistics don’t usually lie, (depending on who wrote them). Suicidal people who were not successful in their attempt are almost always very grateful that someone stopped them, or their attempt failed. They have another chance at life!!! Things really aren’t as bad as they felt at that moment.
Now, picture a woman who just finds out she is pregnant. Her situation is not ideal, and she goes to the doctor. The nurse says “do you want to this baby?” The woman says “No…I don’t know what I’m going to do!! Instead of offering to kill the baby, and telling her not to worry, its not a person yet. It wont feel anything. Your life is more important, What if the nurse was to offer that woman a list of resources to help her? What if she showed her a picture of what that little miracle of life looked like inside her ? Showed her an album full of loving couples who are desperate for a baby? Maybe things aren’t as bad as they seem at that moment. Statistics don’t usually lie (depending on who wrote them) and this statistic is pretty solid. The average woman who has an abortion lives to regret it. As a mother myself, I cant even begin to fathom the pain involved, to eventually realize that you killed your baby. Just the thought makes me hurt for those women. A mothers love is so deep. So intense. If you aren’t a mother, you wouldn’t understand, and I don’t think you can. If you are a mother, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
Could you make abortion illegal? Yes. Just like drugs or prostitution, you could make it against the law. That obviously works…right?…(crickets)…… A lot of the well intentioned laws in our country have one glaring flaw. A persons body is theirs. Can you try to help someone who is suicidal? yes. Can you try to help someone who is considering abortion? yes. If they really want to kill themselves, they will. If they really want to have an abortion, they will. It was happening hundreds of years ago, before doctors were around to help.
That scenario I mentioned earlier with nurse asking the woman if she wanted to keep the baby? It really happened. To a twenty year old who had just gotten married a few months ago, and was hardly coherent from Hypermesis gravidarium (really really bad morning sickness for those of you who don’t know). ME. I was snapped out of my nausea for a moment, long enough to say indignantly “of course I WANT my baby!” but I never forgot how quickly that option was presented to me. It was almost the first thing out of the nurses mouth.
Here is another scenario. A little girl is invited to participate in a ceremony honoring aborted babies. Her hair is curled, her best dress is ironed and those shiny shoes are brought out of the closet. Her and a little boy slowly walk a wreath down a path, and place it on a large monument that is covered with names. As she walked back to her mom, she saw women collapsing in their husbands arms, wailing. The mourning was real. The anguish was real. Some of them were half carried away because they were so distraught. Later, the little girl asked her mom why they were so sad. Her mom, never one to try and hide the subject, said “Those women are so sad because they killed their babies”. That little girl was me, and I never will forget the cries of those women, who realized what they had done and regretted it with everything in their being. Instead of laws that try to nail down exactly when a baby can feel, or when it has a heartbeat, why not focus on requiring real information about the miracle growing inside that woman be presented to her? Women are amazing. We can grow people. Now we just need to make sure that every woman realizes how amazing she is, and that she is fully capable. You got this.
Messy Homeschool Mom 